Wedding Day

Best day of my life or the worst? I'm head over heels in love with Cecy and delighted that we have married, I'm sure we are going to have a wonderful life together. My regret, probably the greatest of my life is that I did not want to return to the house for the reception but conceded in the end provided that we leave for the hotel at a reasonable hour. We live in her parents' house with the children and for me this night was to be the last for who knows how long, that we would spend together alone. In the end I conceded to spend the night in the house and cancelled the hotel with the promise that our privacy would be respected for this one night in the house, without interruption. The wedding was fantastic and Padre Ivan (a former psycologist) is a great person with a lively sense of humour. I have shared enjoyable conversations with him, he is after all the only person I know in Colombia who is not part of the family. Also I know he won't repeat anything I tell him because it is protected by the sanctity of confession.

So, how did it go? Great wedding and the early part of the night at the house was fine but come 2 o'clock when I decided that was enough for the day in the company of guests that I didn't know, everyone (including my wife) told me that she would not be going to bed that night because it was the culture in the coastal cities of Colombia to pass the whole night with the guests until sunrise. It would seem that breaking a promise is no big deal for the Colombians because nobody was expecting me to not be delighted with this decision. In particular, my use of the word 'traicion' to express my feelings about my wife surprised a few. I don't care what other people do traditionally. I think it is a great expression that you cannot judge a man's character by what he says but rather by his actions. Trust is hard won and easily lost. At the moment my trust has been lost. This was OUR day. I expressed my wishes and the surprise for everybody is that I was sincere.....I actually meant what I said.